If You Feel Overlooked or Underappreciated - Encouragement for Today - May 11, 2023

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Lysa TerKeurstMay 11, 2023

If You Feel Overlooked or Underappreciated

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“After removing Saul, he made David their king. God testified concerning him: ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart; he will do everything I want him to do.’” Acts 13:22 (NIV)

Sometimes I wake up in the morning feeling a little grumpy. Time to do it all again.

I’ll buy food that gets eaten. I’ll wash clothes that get dirty again. I’ll sweep floors that will somehow need to be swept again before the day is even done.

Is there more to all this than just doing the tasks of everyday life?

One day, before I jumped into the normal routine, I sat with Jesus. And I found some big truths as I read my Bible and took a little glance into David’s life. Despite his tendency to sin and his low position in his own family, and despite how others viewed him, David had the sweet reassurance of God. And that was enough.

Overlooked by everyone else. Hand-picked by God.

To his older brothers, David was young — possibly even a pest. To his father, Jesse, he was just another son. To onlookers, he was a mere shepherd boy. But to God, David was the one destined to be king of Israel. And not just any king. His was the bloodline from which Jesus would come.

Overlooked by everyone else. Hand-picked by God.

Even the way David was anointed to be king is a telling story. In 1 Samuel 16, God revealed to Samuel that He had rejected Saul as king and had chosen one of Jesse's sons to be the replacement.

Think of the list of qualifications that must have run through Samuel's mind for such a position: tall, smart, articulate, brave, well-groomed, well-mannered, a natural-born leader. Samuel saw some of these characteristics in Eliab, David's brother. “But the LORD said to Samuel, ‘Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart'” (1 Samuel 16:7, NIV).

Samuel had Jesse line up all of his sons. All of them were to be considered. Yet Jesse didn’t call David in from tending sheep. Was this an oversight? An assumption? A judgment call? A deliberate choice?

Overlooked by everyone else. Hand-picked by God.

Samuel declined each of Jesse’s sons and then asked, “Are these all the sons you have?” I imagine Jesse with a quizzical expression as he replied, “There is still the youngest … He is tending the sheep” (1 Samuel 16:11, NIV). Surely one who spent his time taking care of animals was not the one to take care of a nation.

Overlooked by everyone else. Hand-picked by God.

As soon as Samuel saw David, he knew he’d found the one. David was anointed to become king (1 Samuel 16:12-13). But he was not immediately ushered to the throne. It would be many years before David was recognized by the world. So where did he go after being anointed? To a refining school? A government academy? Military training?


He went back out to the fields and continued to shepherd his flock. A king-to-be was doing lowly tasks. A future king's character was refined in the fields of everyday life to prepare him for his calling.

How like us. In the midst of smelly laundry, dirty dishes, misplaced keys, bills that need to be paid, kids who need our attention, and birthday gifts that still need to be mailed — there is training. There is character-building. There is attitude-shaping. There is soul-defining. All of which must take place for us to become what God intends.

Do you ever feel overlooked by the world? Take heart — we are hand-picked by God.

We aren’t just doing tasks. We are building a legacy. We are shaping God’s Kingdom. We are in the process of discovering not only our God-given callings but the callings of our family as well. And I don't know about you, but this sure does make me look at my everyday tasks in a whole different light.

Dear Lord, I’m grateful that even when I feel overlooked, I can rest in the fact that I am hand-picked by You. Help me see purpose in even the most ordinary moments today. And help me live my life for an audience of One. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.


You were hand-picked by God … to be His daughter. To live in freedom. To be your child's mama. To tell people about Jesus. To be your husband's wife. To use the gifts you have. To be a light in this world. For a purpose. At Proverbs 31 Ministries, we want to give you the tools and resources to live like this is true. Will you donate today so we can continue to help you, and other women just like you, to know and live the Truth of God's Word? Click here to learn more.


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Genesis 16:13, “She gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: ‘You are the God who sees me,’ for she said, ‘I have now seen the One who sees me’” (NIV).

Knowing God sees you, how does this change your perspective even when you feel overlooked or underappreciated? We’d love to hear from you in the comments!

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